Axel's funeral cost. And the danger of tacks.

Written by Axel's mommy Ayla. Most of you know what happened to Axel. But some of you of you dont.  On january 9th my oldest son soso was turning 6. I was putting his pj mask cake together and the kids were running around being crazy kids. When daddy woke up I went upstairs to shower. When all of a sudden my Husband, Neema and Papa were screaming something was wrong with Axel.  I came down stairs to see my Husband doing the heimlich on Axel. Then Papa tried nothing was happening. When he went limp. Neema was on the phone with the Paramedics and they were on their way. Then they started CPR to try to keep him breathing. It wasnt working. When the EMT showed they tried everything nothing was working. He was rushed to Marybridge. Where we waited for hours. It felt like days. When finally around 4pm the Doctor told us they found out Axel asperated a tack. A thumb tack. Ones you hang pictures on the wall or posters. And it had punctured his right lung  and blocked the other. They told us because he was without oxygen for more than 20 minutes that he would be brain dead.  We prayed. We had people praying all over the world for our little guy. We had so many people surrounding us and Axel.  The third day we did the first of two test to see if he was brain dead. And it came back that he was.  That night we went back with all of our family to say goodbye. And God blessed us with a small miracle. He twitched and tried to gasp for air. So they could not declare him brain dead. I thank God for the extra days to be with him even though he couldn't do anything. Mommy and daddy read the Bible and books to him. sang to him. prayed with him.
But unfortunately on Saturday the 16th. We got a call from one of the Doctors on staff. He said he did a brain death test. He said he was aggressive with him to try and see something anything and nothing happened. So we had to wait for 12 hrs between test's. Sunday Daddy,Papa,Neema and I went and said goodbye again and waited for a Pediatric Neurologist to perform the last test. And it came back negative. Our baby was gone he was only breathing because of life support. So he was declared legally dead. Daddy and I held our baby one last time. 

Axel was 4 years old. Born 12/13/2016.
He was happy boy filled with so much light and laughter. Dont get me wrong though he could throw the biggest attitude and tantrum. He LOVED and I mean LOVED dressing up. From super hero to woody or buzz to daddy's shirt to mommy boot's to drawing on his face to be catboy from pj mask. And the hats our baby LOVED hats, any kind he could turn anything into a hat. 

I know that our hearts will always have a chunk missing because he took it with him. 

A tack. A thumb tack did so much damage to his little body. I want anyone a Parent, Grandparent, Aunt, Uncle or Friend to remove tacks there are other ways to hold things up that wont hurt or kill a child.thankyou.54060042_1611164646545061_r.jpeg
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