heya, you may know me as cafebeef. if you know me, you know that i have a bit of a reputation for not calling myself, trans, but the truth of the matter is that i don't consider myself able to present femininely in any way irl without having surgeries that feminize me to a point where i don't risk crying when i look in the mirror. not being able to present femininely in my real life is why i consider myself not trans despite an official diagnosis of gender dysphoria.
my lack of feminine appearance in my bone structure causes me a lot of distress in everyday life to the point where it often gets in the way of getting on with my life and being normal. i have become very reclusive as a result of this. the procedures that i need in order to feel good in my own body are not covered by the UK government healthcare, nor any private medical insurance here, so i am left to fund them myself.
i have made the decision to pursue a few surgeries in order to help with this, these surgeries are well outside of something that's easily affordable for me, i would be okay with paying it all off myself, but that means still not being able to actually live my life to the fullest for the next 15 years or more.
i wouldn't ask for help if i didn't think that i needed it in order to be happy and maybe one day free of the condition of gender dysphoria. it would mean the world to me if you could help me to be happy in my life and reduce the extreme mental symptoms that dysphoria causes and are a major factor in reducing my quality of life and ability to integrate into society.
thank you for reading <3
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