Help young brain tumour widows rebuild their lives

Hi, we are Diana and Olga.

We lost our husbands to glioblastoma brain tumour last year. At that point we wanted to die too. We have been fighting a losing battle against cancer for many months seeing our husbands fade away and then helplessly watched people we loved more than life take their last breath in front of us.

One of us then had to tell the devastating news about their father to 4 children aged between 4 and 11 at school pickup. Another one had to be checked in to the rehab as doctors feared she’d harm herself. Neither of us had family around to lean on.

We both fell into deep isolation and depression unable to focus and function properly. We were previously active women, travellers, entrepreneurs, we were active members of teams we made with our husbands. We used to be in control of our lives.

We are now drained financially after exhausting all the resources on treatments and medications in attempt to save our husbands’ lives. We are drained emotionally too, unable to pick up from where we left, struggling with mental health. We accumulated a backlog of debts during past 10 months and we need help to adjust, rebuild our lives.

Today we are asking for your help to get back on our feet. It will enable us to continue working on the projects we started together with our husbands – technology and photography, and help us start a charity for widows like us.

We will be grateful for any help you can give and you spreading the word on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other channels. Every donation and every share make a difference.

Kindly,

Diana and Olga

P.S. As women who are not used to asking for help in exchange for nothing we would like to offer a thank you token for every donation over £100, a silver Love necklace designed by Diana. Just email us your address for shipping.

Diana’s and Olga’s story: why we launch this campaign together

We decided to start this campaign together because one by one we seem to crumble, because no other person can understand you better than a person who shares your experience. Women support women. We encourage each other to take one little step at a time.

We met on Facebook’s glioblastoma brain tumour group while looking for help two months after our husbands died. We were both in a state of shock still hoping that we could save our mental health. Little did we know about that it was only going to get worse. Our partners had the same illness and they passed away with a difference of 1 month and 10 days. Ironically, they were even treated in the same hospital and we were getting our medication supplies in the same pharmacy. We thought it was strange we didn’t run into once another back then. Or maybe we did? There were so many coincidences and similarities in our stories, we took it as a sign. The way we lived was also very much alike: we worked side by side with our partners, we worked for ourselves, we travelled a lot. Our life was what we were making of it. And we lived far away from our families.

Both our partners had that great personality, they’d light up the sky with their infectious energy. They were so full of life. Why them? They were and will always be our soulmates. Despite this never-ending pain, we are now learning, to continue the projects we started together, to make them proud, to be able to support children and give them the future they deserve.

Understanding the isolation and loneliness a widow faces, we also share a common goal. Once we stand firmly on our feet, we aim to create a charity to help other widows adjust to their new reality, to give them understanding and support they need, some air to breathe financially, and hope for the future.

Donations

  • Estelle Leach-Francais 
    • £100 
    • 2 months ago
  • david secker 
    • £50 
    • 2 months ago
  • Elena Blauvelt 
    • £100 
    • 2 months ago
  • Anonymous 
    • £100 
    • 2 months ago
  • Arina Voorhaar 
    • £120 
    • 2 months ago
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Organiser

Diana Nilsson 
Organiser
London, UK
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